“An unfulfilled vocation drains the colour from a man’s entire existence” – Honore de Balzac
What makes you feel unfulfilled in life?
For as long as human beings have existed, they’ve yearned to know what makes life worth living. Plato described man as a “being in search of meaning,” and the first great work of literature, the 4,000 year-old “Epic of Gilgamesh,” is a hero’s quest to live a meaningful life in the face of mortality.
Today many of us are no less interested in creating a life that matters. But it`s difficult. Still most of the people are unfulfilled. They hate their jobs, they hate their lives, they hate where they live. And among the reasons we find:
- never-ending to-do lists
- meaningless assignments
- pointless meetings
- co-workers who don’t care
- new projects that seem destined for failure
- unrelenting politics
- lack of promotion or recognition of talent
- a poor economy
- weak job prospects
- unreasonable bosses
Of course the list can go on and on and on. All the above lead to fatigue, boredom, a lack of meaning and ultimately burnout. And people still offer myriad reasons and justifications for remaining stuck—some completely valid and some just excuses.
It`s time to think about this
There are some questions you have to ask yourself:
- Why are you in the situation you’re in?
- Did you end up in your current job by choice or default?
- Are you fulfilling a promise made to your family or others?
- Are you in a career you chose at age 18 when you took a certain major in college?
No need to place blame on anyone or anything— take a rational look at what has brought you to this point.
Here is another one. When are you going to take yourself seriously? Because only when you acknowledge that you are worth it, and you are the one who has to create the life you want,you will make the hard and potentially difficult choices needed to change. You have to decide that finding meaning in your life is important and not a luxury reserved for a lucky few.
Carl Rogers once wrote that “the only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change.” Before you waste one more hour at a “Thank God it’s Friday” or “Over-the-Hump Wednesday” celebration at your local bar, try answering these questions to help you learn about and change your situation.
Where there’s a will, there’s a way. If one is motivated enough to do something, they will find a way to do it. Just think about. The answer is inside you.
There are no limitations to the mind except those we acknowledge…